Have you ever read a romance novel? The basic structure is basically the same in all of them: they meet cute, there is an issue that almost tears them apart, they live happily ever after. But have you ever noticed the issue that often tears them apart is poor communication? Assumptions get made, someone from outside the relationship tells someone something that is not accurate, misunderstandings abound.

So often the answer to these issues is to improve communication. The same answer is needed in real relationships. Do not make an assumption about your partner. Check it out. You might be correct, but also just as easily may be wrong! So, ask questions! If something was said that is confusing, clarify! Ask more questions, but not in an accusatory manner. Be lovingly curious. If someone outside the relationship tells you something, explore. See where and what the truth is. Notice if there is any agenda for the person telling you.

As I write this, I realize that the point of having healthy communication is to minimize any drama. While this makes for better relationships, it makes for a very short novel: they meet cute, they have healthy communication and a strong relationship, they weather life’s storms together, the end.

Hmm, perhaps it makes for a good story after all! Enjoy the journey!