Have you ever had a friend feel more distant from you? Perhaps you had talked/texted several times a week, but the frequency has dropped off. Perhaps the times that you would get together have also diminished. You may be feeling hurt or angry over this. But wait! Before you fire off that angry text, consider some other options.

The first thing that you need to do is get yourself centered. Take a few deep breaths so that you are so agitated. Then check in with yourself. What exactly is triggering you? Is it something in the present or something from your past? Be sure that you are reacting only to what is happening in the present. If there are issues from your past that are coloring what you are seeing, please be sure that you work through prior to reaching out to the person you are dealing with today!

Okay, you are calm and present, great! Now, be really clear about what is upsetting you. Have they stopped contacting you or are no longer willing to do the things that you used to do together? Make it concrete. Then calmly let them know what has been bothering you. It might help to write down your important points before you speak with them or write some practice texts before you actually hit send!

It is interesting how often when we can approach a situation calmly, the response that we get back. It is possible that there are issues going on in their life that has nothing to do with your friendship. It may be that there is an issue that needs to be resolved, and now it can be, because you approached kindly!

So, please, take the option of a gentle response. You may be very pleased with the reaction. And, as always, enjoy the journey!