Sometimes life can be very difficult. In fact, we can count on that all of us, at some point in our lives, will go through tough times. It is important to remember some things when you are in the middle of the heartache.

The first is this is a temporary state. Even if it is hellacious, it will end. Things will change. Sometimes we need to hold on to that when we cannot hold on to anything else.

The second thing I want you to remember is that you cannot do this alone. You must be part of a community. Having people holding your hand, giving hugs (even if virtual) makes a huge difference in our ability to tolerate the hard times. Our communities can be found in many places. Our family and friends, of course, are the first place to turn to. But there are many other places as well. Your spiritual community may be a place of source and strength. Any club/organization that you are a member of may surprise you with their support. Where we work or go to school often can be much more supportive that we would expect.

After you become aware of where your support may be found, it is important to use it! Asking for support is not a sign of weakness. It is a sign of strength. There is no shame in needing support. The healthiest, strongest people I know use their communities to help them through their hard times.

And of course, if you see someone else struggling, then it is your turn to be part of their community and support them. Please be sure to take care of yourself and the members of all of your communities!